Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) is an evidence based couples therapy model rooted in attachement theory and the neurosciences. Dr Sue Johnson and her colleagues developed and have been refining this powerful and revolutionary model for the past 30 years.
EFT sees couple distress as a symptom of separation anxiety. This separation distress creates a negative dynamic in the couple that perpetuates the separation distress, which in turn maintains the negative dynamic… The partners become trapped in a repetitive and painful feed-back loop that makes it virtually impossible for them to respond to the needs of the other for closeness, validation, empathy and desire. EFT first helps couples see their dynamic and how it is hurting them, as well their respective positions in this dance. The second phase of therapy focuses on restructuring the emotional bond between the partners in order to create a more secure attachment.